Don't Hate us Coz we're BEAUTIFUL

We really can’t please every person, even if we have done nothing against them. We also cannot appreciate everyone. But it is up to us on how to deal with them.

Even if there are people who don’t like us, we still need to treat them as a human. God created us in his like, so if we will compete with their unreasonable judgment on us, it’s not far that we are like them. We might not know what their reason is, but we all have the cause not to be like them for as long as our conscience is crystal clear. Maybe they have heard not quite fair stories about us but that’s the nature of humans, giving more importance on the bad stuffs. Let’s just say that we are all diverse, and our ways are unlike others. So it would be better if we will not take much of our time pretending to like them and just be casual. We must remember that in order to have a positive outlook in life, we must not be near of any negative source. If they are fond of judging, then let’s not take that away from them. But rather, consider it as a lifetime gift for these people. It is at sometimes good not to have everything, at least we have something to look forward to.

What matters is that we must at least not cloud our good perception without any reason and not to be like these people. Let’s be more grown-up and be more professional in civilized way. Let’s accept them as a challenge in strengthening our mindfulness, our attitude, and intellect especially on interpersonal and emotional. They still ought to be treated nice though, so if you think they need help then lend a hand. But don’t expect something in return from them. And let’s us not over analyze their attitude; they may perhaps have inner struggles no one can understand along with the reflection in their behavior.

Nevertheless, appreciate more on the people that love having you around as they won’t give any damn misinterpretation on your actions and verdicts. There are billions of people all over the world waiting to be befriended by a remarkable person like you. So don’t dwell on people who don’t like you. Love more on those guys who painted a wonderful color on your life, forget those who makes a wreck on you.

It is our moral obligation to be aware of our emotions. Self-control is the key from self-destruction that will bring negative impact to others. If we will also learn to hate, we are also opening our door of being irrational.

P.S. Be thankful that they talk about you. It only means you are like a CELEBRITY - the GOSSIP GIRL. =D

Leave Your Past Behind

“Many people with childhood scars are hurt mostly by what somebody said to them or about them, more than what was done to them. It is an absolute fallacy if we think we are better off by motivating ourselves to achieve our goals with nasty comments, name calling and other negative motivational techniques. Sing these negative techniques may mean that sometimes we will win the battle of achieving a specific short term goal, but we will lose the war-we won’t be able to maintain a happy motivated disposition if we continually put ourselves down. When we learn to positively motivate ourselves we will not only win the battle and achieve our short-term goals, but we will win the war and be an upbeat, motivated, energetic, ball of fire-long term. “Excerpt from 7 Ancient Keys to Happiness – a 90-day Lesson-a-day Guide In Achieving Inner Bliss

We all have bad childhood experiences and memories that up to now is still haunting us. But we must not forget that we need a positive motivation to endure what we really want to happen in our life. Upon contemplating on my experiences back when I was child, the memoirs that surface doesn’t help me to feel better. I made a choice in thinking happy thoughts instead as it give me happy energy to keep going everyday. I affirm to myself that I will not let any distasteful judgment stain my advocacy in making a great change in my life.

It Takes Two To Tango

One of the most easiest way to achieve what we want to achieve is by help. I’m not referring to any indecent proposal or the like but I am referring on sharing it with someone who also has the same aspiration like you, or should I say us. Have a friend who you can be your partner in your way to achieve lasting happiness.

Sharing stories with a friend is sometimes a whole lot better than shopping. Or better yet exchanging ideas and stories while shopping is just so awesome,right? So same thing goes to when you are with someone in your transformation. You’ll get to learn from your friend and vice versa. In this errand of mine, I share this with someone tso close to me. And it has more fun than working alone. We get to share our realizations and I have appreciated my apprehension that there are thousands of good things to talk about that would do good to myself rather than talking gibberish stuffs in life.

The beauty of life is all in our mind and deep within. If we will let our negative thoughts change its insights into optimism towards our surroundings, our life would be spectacular. Share your wonderful views to someone or to everyone, you might awaken their innate desire of achieving optimal bliss. So what are you waiting for? CALL A FRIEND!

You are What You Say

One of my ways in knowing people is how they talk or what they talk about. For so many times, I am misjudged for being strict through my face (duh!), Yes I am strict but not to the extent that I would become irrational. At first meet, I am silent and observant. I am reading people on things they talk about. Sometimes I gauge one’s intellect by knowing what he or she usually discusses. Even if I am like this, it doesn’t mean that I judge them. First impression doesn’t works for me coz it’s bias.

I find it odd when people are talking bad stuffs about other people especially when they want to impress the person they are talking to. I know some who often talk unpleasant stuffs to others in benefit for them to look the ‘good guy’. Don’t they know that it might be themselves who they are talking to and not who they intend to portray? Notice the kind of surrounding those people has. Do they have more positivity or they have more negativity?

I admit I talk about other people, but most of the time it’s more on appreciation and praises. Myself isn’t in favor of ruining others. It’s our reputation that’s in stake here and our credibility. If you happen to be that kind of person who is fond of talking other people’s mistakes then better change your suit ‘coz It won’t do good for you. You will only end up seeing the world full of pessimism and complaints. And, you will radiate a negative energy to your environment thus attracting negative events. If you want to have a lasting happiness, always start with yourself. Start with your mind. Try to control your unlikable thoughts and transform it into the opposite.

But if you are the people who always encounter those kind of people, better yet don’t listen. It will only give you bias perception to other people. You mind end up judging every action of others without any valid reason. Or you might end up being so suspicious in their every act.

“small minded people talk about other people’s lives, average minded people talk about events, great people talk about ideas”

To where will you label yourself then? Let's go for GREAT PEOPLE!!

Lost and Found

Life isn't like a laptop where you can just strike the back button or click undo then vwallah!!you are on your history!! If life is like that, then it's kinda lame.

Let me share you something from my experience.

Way back like 5 years ago, I can’t manage my temper. When I get mad, without second thought, I would shout and articulate offensive words. =( Lucky for me back then that nobody has filed a case against me, or else I might be the court’s favorite visitor. Whew! I always lead a team, so that’s why I was always in the end of my tether. But at one circumstance, I found my turning point with my attitude. Out of the blue I hurt someone, like physically. I stabbed him on his hand with my pen and so he was rushed to the school clinic because he fainted and was so pale like a paper. Then I knew I knocked a bone and a vein.. After that accident, I feel like everbody was against me and that they all hate me. At that time, i had jam-packed of regrets of being so stupid to act like a criminal. Having a temper tantrum is difficult to manage, i tell you. That’s how dim-witted I was when i got angry.

Though changed doesn’t happened overnight, I am still in my ride to control my anger. Indeed it is so difficult but if we have much perseverance, nothing is impossible. Now, I take time to breathe and I prefer to rationalize my point. I may have failed sometimes but I believe it is part of the process. And what really helped me is now is my journey in finding conscious awarenss and be more responsible with my attitude. And now that I am radiating love to my life, I have more peace. There may be a lot of challenges that would test my patience, but for as long as I believe I know where I stand, then it’s all that matters. As long as I don’t hurt anyone then it’s more than ok. If I need to confront someone then I will definitely do it in the name of professionalism if it really needs to be talked about. But occasionally, there are things that are better left unspoken though.

We may not be able to turn back the time like some movies do, but we can still make it right for as long we are alive. We can still do more good and dwell on doing the right thing in recompense of our faults.

Don't let darkness get into our nerves. Learn to breath and tell yourself to let go of that negativity as it won't do any better for you. Let's breath and don't forget to listen to yourself and ask what is rightful. There is no one who knows yourself better. Do what you think is truthful and don't let anger eat up the best of you.

When I LOST my temper, I FOUND my decision point. How about you? What’s your LOST AND FOUND?

Masalam

It Will Always be Half-full

Part of our existence is to be involved in a difficult situation where the easiest thing to do is to run away and forget or merely wishing to have lacunar amnesia- the loss of memory about one specific event. Or if not, are you in a situation where the flow of energy around you isn’t accommodating to your senses? Are you in the same boat as I am? WELCOME ABOARD!!

At times I complain. I often become aware of the negative rather than the positive. I always feel the depression rather than the optimism of a situation. I even feel it in some people. Because of this, I miss a lot of good things in my life. I fall short to appreciate and give valuable meaning when something is unbearable like being unenthusiastic to go to work, having difficult people around, the inner struggle of missing my family and my old life, belly fats, my not so perfect eyesight, and so on. I let my perception draw close to the bad things. But just recently, I sat down and just close my eyes and remember the good things that have happened to me. Now I learn to value my work as I thought to myself, “ there are people who wished they have the job you currently have”, “ those people will definitely strengthen your inner values as they will always remind you that people are really unique”, “ eventhough you miss your family, they couldn’t be more proud of you that you have crossed the seas just to be where you are right now and that you have travelled international” , “be lucky you have that tummy as others are suffering from having ascites-accumulation of fluids in the abdominal cavity.”, “ be thankful for your eyes,they may not be the perfect eyes but remind yourself that there are a lot of blind people who daily kneeled to give them the sight that you have” and so on. I am now absorbing the true wisdom of the beauty of everything that is wrapped within it. Think the oyster as your struggle now,it may be ugly and stinky but within it, it can produce a beautiful pearl.

Add Meditation in Your List of Friends

Meditation when mastered is the easiest way to ease any tension from our clouded perceptions. It also keeps as aware in our consciousness and be more responsible with our decisions and actions. It makes us more aware to think before we make any harsh actions. It helps us relax in any circumstances and even make feel righteous. Let me share to you the benefits when we learn to meditate successfully as what I’ve learned from Roy Eugene Davis on An Easy Guide to Meditate.

“The purpose of meditation practice is to facilitate awakened spiritual consciousness. A few of the side-benefits which contribute to our wellness ad improved functions are several:

• · Mental transformations and thinking processes become more organized as the result of meditative calmness and the influence of refined states of consciousness.
• · The body’s immune system is strengthened and physiological functions are encouraged to be more balanced and efficient.
• · Biologic aging processes are slowed. Older, long term meditators are mentally and physically younger than their calendar years might suggest.
• · Stress symptoms are reduced. The nervous system is refreshed and enlivened, allowing awareness t be more easily processed through it.
• · Regenerative energies are awakened. These, directed by innate intelligence, vitalize the body, empower the mind and have restorative and healing influences.
• · Intellectual skills are improved, causing delusions and illusions to be dispelled. Intuition awakens, allowing us to directly know whatever we desire to know and to experience a vivid sense of unerring inner guidance.
• · Appreciation for living is enhanced.
• · Creativity is stimulated
• · Innate spiritual qualities awaken, enabling us to be more insightful, and functionality skillful.
• · Rapid, more satisfying, authentic spiritual growth s nurtured because body, mind and awareness is beneficially influenced by refined superconsciousness states.”
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ImImagine if we experience those benefits. We get to live everyday so much peace in our hearts and wellness. How many uncertainties will we surpass? I bet everything. Our creativity will then surface and we will achieve our most favorable way of living. Declare to yourself that, “ I CAN BE THE BEST OF WHO I AM”. Repeat it and claim it. You will feel more confident as you get to know yourself and how much more you can do to you and to others.

Stay happy and carry on a big heart. Masalam!

Click your Heart Button

Truth is, we have our inner care of advice for our self. Meaning we know inside what is best. The implication is that our character is associated with that care and thus we have all the brain capacity to be on our best potential. When we reflect and go deep within our self, we will find that care which entrenched our awareness, instinct or in surge or encouragement.

Let’s tap into our own heaven.

In every contemplation, it is best to start with a prayer. Ask God for the guidance and enlightenment of truth in our selves. Ask for the help in setting aside our troubles for a moment until we can feel peace and serenity in our mind as well as calmness in our body and also for the way to feel what your heart is longing for. If you are uncertain of what you have felt as you go, ask your self and wait for your heart to beat for it.. listen carefully. Wait until a soft voice will communicate with you. Remember the quiet voice I told you? When you feel the excitement to that certain feeling, that’s the care that your inner self has given that was channeled to you by the quiet voice.. Don’t worry if you are in doubt, it’s typical. Sometimes we feel that uncertainty when we feel like we can hurt people by our choice. But,how much more hurt can you give when you know that we can give more than what you have given now.

Don’t abandon what you have searched out. That’s the first step in self-discovery. What have you felt when you found that aspiration? Can you explain it? Can you really describe that overwhelming inspiration and motivation? Just imagine how many dreams you will achieve it you feel it every second or every breath you take. How much happiness will you feel then? Infinite!

Sometimes, our soul communicates with us through instincts. Even if we are in our daily routine, the still voice is talking with us. We just failed to feel and listen. That’s why there are couple of times that we regret in our decision. It is because we failed to listen and identify what the soft voice is telling us. Take time to be with yourself. Sure thing, you have more to uncover to be actualized and more successful.

Masalam!

You Listen, You WILL Talk

Have you experienced just to sit and listen to yourself ? Can you hear some sort of whispering inside your head? What are they telling you? Is it benefits you? Does it makes you even more confused?Or both? Let’s identify these low tones ringing in your thoughts.

Say, you are in an fight with a close friend of yours. In the middle of the heat, you have alleged offending words to him and he has thrown same on you. After the argument, when everything is in its cool, you can’t get rid of the disagreement you had. It keeps on buzzing in your head and you can no longer ignore it. And so you were in your deep thoughts. As you sit and reflect, you heard voices in your head saying “..what’s done is done. You hurt him, he hurt you. Just let it go.. just let it be the way it happened. Just forget the memory and live on..move on”. Then in the midst of silence there is another voice saying “ what’s done is done, you both hurt each other. But even though he busted on you,you still owe him an apology. Go and talk to him. You may not be able to undo and delete the hurt from the incident but you can make it right. Just go to him and talk..”

So, can you differentiate now the voices? Hmmmmmm let’s call the first voice as the noisy and the latter the quiet voice. For now,let’s focus more on our quiet voice.

In every difficult situation we are into, usually we hold our to our spiritual belief,especially to GOd. Yes, it is very powerful. But it would be more powerful if we also hold on to our self. Going into the deepest part of our heart, there we can find all the answers of our emotions. Who do we find there?..the quiet voice or the voice of our soul. When we can turn on that voice, then we won’t be terrified or anxious to face every problem especially when it often disturbs the flow of calmness of our mind.

The quiet voice will guide us to the bright path where ultimate happiness awaits. There will be times that we believe it is so hard to do what the voice is telling us to do. But we need to trust that voice coz it’s the same thing as trusting our self. He knows what’s best for us. He knows what are the rightful actions and decisions and he will encourage us that we can really choose the right choice. We just need to listen deep and then we will be on our full potential with soaring self-esteem.

I will be sharing you more on the quiet voice inside us on my next post. Masalam =D

Happiness is a Career

We make our own happiness. True!

By nature, we cling to things. We easily get attached to people, material things, experience, etc. if we feel that our connection is so perfect and vibrant, we experience extreme glee. However,once that attachment or bond doesn’t go the way we wanted it to be, we easily get frustrated, depressed, sad, and sometimes we react socially unacceptable.

Our happiness doesn’t depend on other people, or anything.

We may be overjoyed with the people we meet, but it doesn’t mean that we owe our happiness to anyone. We may always have that sensation of being elated every time when being with them but, it is us who have the decision to be happy around them. It’s us and not them to decide for our happiness.

Otherwise, we may have met challenging people that give us frustration and hard time but it doesn’t mean that we can’t be happy anymore. They are just there to strengthen our relationship with our self, not to anyone but to our self.

Everything starts within us. As they always say, “look at the brighter picture”, we will just then consider these challenging people as springboard to a better us. Somehow they have helped us develop more our patience, understanding, unconditional love and so on. By then, we won’t have to worry in dealing with those sorts of fellas.

Happiness is our choice to make, not from others. We have different sense of happiness. My happiness may not be happiness for you. Who cares, as long as we don’t hurt anyone then it won’t matter. Right? I am happy when I get to sleep 8 hours a day. Others consider it a waste of time sleeping more than 6 hours. That’s how I chose to be happy, this is my preference.. That’s my contentment, I am happy to be able to sleep my 8 hours. Having that long rest for me will give me lasting joy. Not just for a day, but for the coming days as i gave enough time for my cells to regenerate. =) When we are convient, we are pleased. And so we are blissful.

Money, influence and luxury are not tantamount with happiness. Yet, we are aware - it doesn’t mean we live in delight if we don’t have them. But it also doesn’t mean we are completely happy if we do have them- that they don’t bring us lasting happiness on their own. They are all impermanent.

'SELF' is Complex

Have you experienced that intuitive feeling asking "why am i like this?" or "why do i act like this?", "do i really know my self?" ? Have you had your 'aha moments?'

SELF is the subject of every matter. For over centuries now, psychologists and philosopher are continually studying the evolution of an individual. Even altering the DNA is made possible already. Human beings are interconnected with his environment with unknown reason. That's why at all times our actions are so difficult to foretell.

We have this still small voices that vibrate into all the corners of our head. Others call it conscience, while some conveniently prefer it as the moral judgement. From the book 7 Ancient Keys to Happiness, the voices are described as the noisy voice and the quiet voice. These elements are the one responsible for our emotional reaction, physical response, and our divine motivation. Whatever you do right now,whatever you have and have not at this moment, or you may have succeeded and failed at the same time, it's is tough to point out why it happened. Oh well, 'cause it just happened. =)

Nevertheless, we are responsible of our every actions and decisions. We may have read and known tons of knowledge on our cognitive and affective representation of our behavioural attributes and mannerisms but somehow we still can't figure out the exact and precise answers from our doubts on its about. That's our nature, that's how we are created.